It all started in 2018. I was turning 60 by the end of the year and my wife of 29 years surprised me with the idea of “60 dates on the way to 60”. The rules were simple. I (Bert) set up the dates and she has to come along and can’t object – and she never did. The dates could be anything like a theater visit, movie at the cinema, walk in the park, travel to a nice place, dining out, and sunset ride on the boat etc. there was no limit on ideas and no requirement on how big or small the date might be. Anyone who knows my wife won’t be surprised about this whole idea. She is always good for a surprise.
We would highly recommend any couple to try something similar in this direction. We all have busy lives, children, jobs and much more. Very often we forget to take care of ourselves and we burn out ourselves and our relationships. We need to find time to nurture our relationships and our needs. If we do we have better lives, better relationships and can accomplish so much more. It helps to recharge our batteries and gives us the opportunity to be more energetic in other areas of our life.
Fast forward – we finished 2018 with 60 dates, and now we have a new scheme for this year. This year we go on 30 days before December 6th, out 30-year wedding anniversary. Same rules, but we look for a little bigger dates. We took pictures of every date to remember them and have a record. This time we try to keep up with our dates on a blog. Even so, this blog is mostly for us and to keep good memories, we may share it with anyone who is interested to inspire them to come up with good ideas to improve their lives.
We invite everyone to share their thoughts and ideas and even suggest what might be a good date they can recommend.
Marriage is not a noun; it's a verb. It isn't something you get. It's something you do. It's the way you love your partner every day.
Barbara De Angelis
